Got a big question on my The Way to Greatness video – How do you deal when you put so much effort, time, and resources into achieving something, but see little to no progress? It’s tough. I tried to give my best answer. What would you guys add?
It’s been exactly two years since I graduated college! Since this Sunday lands on my exact grad date, I thought it’d be fitting to do a “Grad Talk” post and share some things I’d tell recent grads. Congratulations, class of 2014~
1. Be excited to start your life!
You can take your life anywhere you want to go. That’s super exciting! Don’t take it for granted.
2. Take the time to invest in yourself.
Learn about what you really want to do. Look within, figure out what you really want to spend your life doing, what impact you want to make on this world. Create your life’s mission statement or purpose statement (I will go further into this later). Live as closely aligned with that statement as you can.
3. The best time to take risks is now.
You have nothing to lose while you’re young—you have minimal responsibilities and burdens at this point in life. It will only get harder to take big risks. If you have any giant goals you want to accomplish in your life, start now. There’s no point in waiting.
4. Find ways to live your ideal life.
Make a list of things you’d like to do: your ideal day, how you want to spend your weekends, how much time you allocate to friends, family, working out, reading, etc. Know that your life is in your hands and you have the ability to create your ideal lifestyle now.
5. Be Aware of Time.
You have to own time or it will own you. Be aware of how much time you’re spending, how much is passing by—you don’t want to waste time & be left wondering what happened in the past x months. Cherish time; don’t let it pass by without a second thought. Also, don’t get complacent or too comfortable, it’s a sign that you’re not growing as much as you should be. Never feel “secure” or “set”—always ask “what’s next?” and always be pushing yourself.
6. Don’t worry over comparing yourself to others.
It can feel like a race with your peers around this time, but don’t be so short sighted. People move and grow at different rates—it’s not that straight forward and the rates will change throughout time. Everybody is on their own path, so just focus on your own.
7. Read. Learn how to learn on your own.
School has ended but that doesn’t mean your education has. Be a lifelong student & always be learning something new.
In the end, make your life your own. Be interesting, do interesting things, do what you want to do. Now is the best time to start building yourself and the life you dream of!
Thought it’d be fun to start tackling this one. We can all be great. So let’s do it. ^_^
Below are additional links for inspiration on this topic. I highly recommend both of them! I didn’t mention Kevin Durant’s speech in the video because I literally watched it as I was editing the video. I cried so much—by the end, it was game over. Watch it. You will absolutely love it & respect Kevin Durant so much more.
Hope this has given you a bit of inspiration for your week. Greatness is a journey & we can all work on becoming better everyday. Enjoy the ride!
These are actually things that I need to be working on, so this vlog is basically the advice I want to give myself. Sharing in case the creatives (and non creatives) out there can relate.
1. Don’t be so hard on yourself.
We are our own worst critics. But it really doesn’t have to be that way. If this is an issue for you, I highly recommend watching Elizabeth Gilbert’s Ted Talk on Your Elusive Creative Genius.
2. Finish what you start
Done is better than perfect. If you quit halfway, you’re giving up on yourself and the piece of work you’ve already put hours into. Don’t let it go to waste! Finish it, complete the cycle of creating, and grow throughout the process.
3. Share your work
Your talent is meant to be shared with the world! Don’t be selfish and keep it all to yourself. No matter what you think, you never know if somebody out there will appreciate or be touched by your work. Sharing also allows you to get feedback and grow through that. Also, don’t be afraid to shamelessly promote yourself. No one is going to see your stuff unless you actively promote it! Check out Shameless Maya for more shameless inspiration.
Can you relate? Comment below with your thoughts!
Life is a lot easier once you learn to stop caring about what others think of you. This had been an issue for me since I grew up pretty shy, insecure, and awkward. And then it was an issue for me again as I decided to do something different with my life against the backdrop of conventional family/peers. In the end, nothing matters except for what you feel about yourself. Nobody should be able to take your confidence, your smile, or your dreams away from you. Don’t be afraid to be yourself and take control of your life.
Also, check out my introduction to the Lavendaire vlog:
Interested to hear your thoughts! Comment below and let me know if you have any topics you’d like me to cover.
Whew. I just finished editing my first vlogs for YouTube!! Super excited. As I’m waiting for the videos to upload, I thought I’d make a quick post about the fun impromptu lavender shoot I did the other day, in case anyone is wondering whether my footage is my own or stock (though I’m 95% sure that 99.9% of people don’t care).
I saw a friend post photos of a prom photoshoot with lavenders, and alas, I had to ask where it was! I discovered that the lavenders were at Cal Poly Pomona, so the next day, I ventured out to the campus in search for the coveted flowers. I tried to Google the exact location of the lavenders, but that was useless. Internet, you have failed me. Maybe there should be a Yelp for finding botanical species or something. It could come in handy. (I’m thinking while camping or in the wild…)
Anyway, I had faith that I’d find them as I drove around campus, and I did! A few bushes in the parking lot. Haha. I’m surprised at how some of the photos and footage came out, considering there really weren’t that many flowers. It was all in the artful angles. Woohoo.
Yeah I really didn’t know what I was doing. I was filming these little bushes for an hour, while students walked past without a care. It’s funny how something could be important to one person and mean nothing to another. It was a fun mini adventure though, appreciating the small things we normally overlook.
Ahhh, so refreshing.
I’m incredibly excited as I’m putting this new blog, vlog, and brand together. I’m not quite sure where to start, because I feel like I’ve been writing this blog my entire life—in my journals and occasionally on my personal blog. I write everyday but it never gets out there—all of my thoughts and mini revelations have been kept to myself over the years. But I feel like now is the time to finally take the leap and start sharing what I have. It would be selfish and a shame to keep it all to myself. Because who knows? Maybe you (yes you, I’m talking to you) need it too. Maybe you don’t. Maybe you know somebody else who does, whom you can share this with. Either way, I’m learning to put myself out there and share more freely and abundantly. Sharing is spreading valuable and empowering information that otherwise would be kept to myself, locked in a tomb. I’m over being a tomb. I’m over being reserved about my thoughts and opinions. I’m going to share what I believe is meaningful in hopes that it reaches somebody out there and makes a real difference. Hell yeah, I’m going to do that. And that is why I’m so freakin’ excited.
Okay but let’s rewind. What is Lavendaire? Lavendaire is a special space on the Internet for the passionate, for the fearless, for the dreamers who believe. Lavendaire is dedicated to the ultimate form of self-expression: to create, shape, and design ourselves and our lives fully. Everybody is an artist in their own right—we can all create and live the life that we have imagined and dreamed of. We have the power to paint our own world to our liking, starting with ourselves. And we should love ourselves and our lives fully—if there’s ever something that we don’t love, we have the power to change it and steer our lives in the direction we choose. Everything is customizable and there are always options, even in times when we feel like we have no choice. It’s a matter of being creative, thinking outside of the box, looking beyond the obvious, or adopting a new perspective. The more creative we become, the more we open our eyes to the endless possibilities in which we can shape our lives. It takes practice and repetition to train our brains to think in new ways, but it’s worth it. Once you learn to take 100% responsibility and control over your life, you will never feel stuck and you can make anything happen.
To me, this means a life of purpose, love, and goodness, sprinkled with tons of creativity, music, art, beauty, knowledge, wisdom, and culture. To you, it may mean something else. We each have our own innate sense of our ideal life and world, and our duties are to live out those ideal lives and create those ideal worlds around us in order to collectively contribute to a better, more beautiful world as a whole. In this way, we put our own personal touch, leave our own legacy and footprint in society, and contribute to shaping its future. I don’t know what’s more exciting than that.
Through Lavendaire, I will be sharing everything I learn in becoming a better artist of life, covering topics in lifestyle, personal growth, creativity, culture, and whatever else moves me. I am forever a student, and as I continue to learn: to read, take classes, meet new people, and find inspiration, I find myself in awe again and again. I’d love to share that with the world, and discover what you all read, learn, and are inspired by as well. Now, I’d like to take a moment to toast all of you, the ones who are driven by such fire, curiosity, and zest for life—the ones who get me. Cheers to your passion, your high ideals, and your tenacity in never settling for less. The world belongs to those of us who will work to become our best selves and craft our lives, just the way we’ve always imagined. We’re in this together. And we’re going to kick some serious ass.